Reazonz 11thrufiddeen

September 20, 2007

Well, if you’ve been reading long enough (And the stuff on the left of the page) You’ve seen Reasons 1-10 letz get to it

11. I don’t go out a lot

Prolly why I want a sexy homebody LOL
I don’t Club, I don’t party, I don’t dance…I DO like a lounge or sports bar or a restaurant with a menu that I can rock with (but long as the drinks are poppin I’m good )
Even with the lounge or Sports Bar I’m not a every week dude, I like them as a change of pace…as everyone knows The Mall, Crate and Barrel and Z Gallerie are my TRUE sanctuaries 🙂

BUT without going to the typical ‘meeting spots’ i’m at a disadvantage (or some say)

Aside: I’ve always thought that when I’m in the club; the woman that I want is NOT there…why would she be? I don’t want a club hopper or regular

THEN (Like I always said) the ONLY way the woman I want is at the club is when she never goes out with her girls and they drug her out…problem is she doesn’t want to be there and damn sure don’t want me to approach her)

…end of aside.

Anywhoo since I don’t go out to the parties and clubs I don’t meet as many women…thus me single.
Leading into…

12. Football season comes? I’m unavailable

I make no apologies…and maybe a reason why I like women that’s into football or competitive, etc.
I’m down to hang out after work during the week.
Fridays I’m down to do some stuff but…

Saturdays is College Football (Could hang out Saturday Night maybe)
Sundays are a WRAP! No dice
Mondays? I would go out to a bar or hang out to watch Monday Night Football

See the other thing is I go to sleep earlier than most people (Because of my work schedule) ask anyone that’s on the board or talks to me on IM
Round/close to 9:30-10:00pm I’m OUT

See…if you look at my Fall TV Schedule (On the Left in Red) 10:00pm stuff is ALL Tivo

13. I don’t have a lot of friends in the area

Being a transplant to the area AND not going out to a ton of places; I don’t make a ton of friends in the area
The few friends I have met are usually doing some something, either they have kids, married, into stuff I’m not, or just plain wack.

You know once a guy gets a certain age he doesn’t make new male friends; you kinda just stick with who you grew up with or met in college, etc.

I’ve also come to find that grown ass men are petty and jealous and extra just like women can be…THAT is not a good look either.
So without a decent Wingman or people that’s throwing BBQs and Super bowl parties that’s less interaction with new females…and yet another reason.

Maybe it’s the only child thing…I’m content with being dolo…a lot of people just HAVE to be around people; even if they are not enjoying themselves or don’t like the people they are around.

Me? I rather chill alone with a good movie, good drink, video game, TV show and relax than hang with some jerk muffins

14. My Work and Living surroundings

Because of what I do for a living (Hey I do stuff oter than Blog and Board and put the dope tunes on the net)
AND because of where I live…there’s not a wealth of “Chocolate faces” so that means, none of those happy hour jump offs or after work get togethers/functions
And runnin into people in my building etc etc.

Damn me for having a career and living in the Rooty Tootie area lol

15. No Game/Don’t approach women…I’m too nonchalant

I don’t go out of my way to seem “cool” I don’t waste time trying to figure out what women want to hear and tell them…I’m too busy being me.

I never liked “game” or the cat and mouse bull with men and women…I don’t have any “lines” or intros…I get nervous around pretty women actually
I’m not really good at lying at stuff that matters…if I’m joking I can lie extra gooder:) So I don’t have any “game”

(I hate that bull about saying you don’t have game is game too…it’s like saying you don’t want to play Tag and some idiot is hitting you talking about “you’re it” I don’t wanna play!)

I only meet women in situations, like an observation or something witty at the time (I have a sharp and quick wit you know 🙂 )
…thing is, if the woman and situation and wit are not aligned at the same time…I say nothing, sad I know.

A lot of people have good “ins” with women…They smoke, they club somewhere, maybe know someone who knows someone yadda yadda yadda
And a TON of men be frontin so that helps too…I can’t do all that; I’m me…alla this, I can’t do much else.

The Nonchalant thing is extra too…If I’m diggin someone and they are not diggin me, play me in some way, want me to chase, or whatever; I just leave her a lone…not worth it
Again, I don’t wanna play!

Awwwww woe is me LOL

Nah, but fun to type :p

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http://pathsnottaken.blogsome.com Erica C.

I fully agree with the “friend” thing! I could honestly care less. I have one best friend and she’s 2 1/2 hours away from me. If we lived any closer….we wouldn’t be friends for long. (let me stop lying, me and that heffa’s been best friends for almost 20 years……bitch ain’t goin nowhere) I personally find it hard to make new friends where I live now, some women (not all) can be real fake and I can’t stand that he said, she said crap. So I just hang with my little divas in training.

As far as going out! I’m over that! Nothing out there for me. I’m happy hanging out at the house with my Sex and the City DVD set. LOL
http://eclectik-relaxation.com/ eclectik

Thanx Lady…least you get me 😉
http://www.thegoddess.blog-city.com The Goddess

Man, you got me wanting to hook you up! But since, I like you, have stuck with my old friends, I don’t have anyone to hook you up with. Damn Shame. New friends mean new drama, and I done had enough of that to last 3 lifetimes. LOL

I have turned into a football loving woman. I think it must have come from my sons playing. I was at my sons game last week acting a SERIOUS fool. If he hadn’t been so focused on the game he probably would have wanted to fight me. LOL I am always SO happy when the season starts and SUPER pissed when it ends. Dang football got me hooked. Smile.
Keli

THEN (Like I always said) the ONLY way the woman I want is at the club is when she never goes out with her girls and they drug her out…problem is she doesn’t want to be there and damn sure don’t want me to approach her)
-This sounds like me…and you’re right, I usually am dragged to the club, and am not too open to being approached. However, when stepped to, I’m usually friendly…good conversation is always welcomed, especially when I am bored out of my mind.

I don’t go out of my way to meet people either. I like alone time. I guess that’s why I’m single too.
t.r.b

oh my gosh, you’re hilarious…..the funny thing is i OVERstand what your talking about…my bestest’s and i have this same convo almost daily….me? i work with a plethora of power-driven attorneys and jake (one-time, cops?) who think their shite don’t stink…but i usually just walk away when i hear something i don’t like…i don’t even respond to them. so i’m saying this to say to you that without a doubt you’ll find that girl you want and who wants you (football, mall and all!) don’t change, cause trust you seem awesome….oh! since you from the OHIO and i’m from the OHIO….how ’bout them Browns?….
Veronica

I’m speachless.

Could it be possiable that there could be a male version of me?!
lol

Your reasons are 90 % of my reasons of why I’m still single.
http://poeticalmadness.blogspot.com/ Iknowyougotsoul

I can relate to you on a lot of things. I can understand.
http://www.courtneyelizabeth.com courtney

I can feel you on some of the things that you listed…especially the lack of “chocolate faces”. 🙂 I live in the “VALLEY” of California…lol
akilah

See hence the reason for a blog reader/lurker/groupie meet and greet man. All of us ladies who read your blog can bring more women and you can get your speed dating on….lol

I feel you with approaching strangers unless it’s a “situation” but you are sooooo funny I really can’t believe you haven’t found someone to chill with.

I don’t have many women friends and the ones I do have a very wack and I have known over 20yrs. I’ll hang out with you though just let me know…Monday night at the Sports bar.
http://srjparks.blogspot.com Sdot

Okay so reasons 15, 14, 6, & 4 ( I think…whichever is the one about a “fast” girl)…might be a prollum…but I’m 73% strong! And even some of those are fixable…eh? What cha think?! No…*sighs* oh well…Fine! You just wanna BE single!
http://thebrownspoon.blogspot.com Roddykat

You know once a guy gets a certain age he doesn’t make new male friends; you kinda just stick with who you grew up with or met in college, etc.
-Tis true. At least you’ve gotten to know what their deal is. And “Shy brother” seems go smoother, too.
Creem

I dont have a ton of friends either most of my friends ive known for over 10 or more years. so the new homie thing nahhhh i’ll pass. its weird.

i think u can find a homie lover friend online E. try it and see how it works out.

There are plenty of women that watch foolsball (lol) and that will hook sum buffalo wings n tater tots up for you on sunday!

I know im not a club person, the atmosphere is super wack n id rather go to a lounge, indulge in great conversation with sum banging tunes in the background.
then afterwards in our inebriated state, walk around the city and make fun of ppl. lol

Fall is the best time to meet someone so get started E!
MsSepia

I can relate this post , and had a conversation about this same subject yesterday. I also know once FOOTBALL SEASON starts it’s a wrap for meeting men unless you share the love of the sport. 🙂

As for the club went out last night after months with 6 other women (various ages) and didn’t meet one man, I wasn’t looking though and it was a free concert, free liquor, free appetizers, and I got to ride with someone so I went along LOL. At least Musiq Soulchild gave a good performance last night and there were even Playboy Bunnies handing out Crown Royal items. I now have 2 Crown Royal candle holders, 1 pair of Crown Royal Cufflinks, and Crown Royal cups with light up swivel sticks.
http://rufeelingme.blogspot.com/ Lisa

Keep hope alive and maybe you should extend yourself a little more. Go outside your comfort zone and you might be surprised.
http://deleted Sakeenah

” I don’t go out a lot”
You don’t have to go to the typical meeting places. You have to go where you’re comfortable. I’ve always thought it was best to develop hobbies or activities that you really enjoy. That way you’ll meet someone w/something in common. You’re into football so go to as many live games as you can. It may feel like work, but it’s for a good cause. Join a book club, take a yoga class, sewing class, join a meditation group, work at Victoria’s Secret on the weekend, become a hair dresser, take a cooking class, aerobics class. These are all women’s activities. The point is to do the things you love, but do them around like-minded people. Women also flock to anything dealing with relationship workshops, self-help, healing, holistic whatever. So don’t feel like you have to force yourself to go to a club and put yourself on display as someone needing companionship. I’ve never really enjoyed clubs

Try something bold and drastic, it just might work. If you see a woman that you’re very interested in, say something like, “I find you very attractive and I’d really like to talk to you…” Corny works, it’s the simple and honest approach. We get tired of the silly ways men try to get our attention. The humane, mature, and straight forward approach works for me. Get to the point, save the phony lines, staring me down creeps me out, the blank stare will never moisten my panties

“My Work and Living surroundings”
If meeting women is that important to you, then you may have to live & work where you can meet them. It’s about priorities & what’s important to you. It’s okay to complain about something, the next step is to make the necessary changes. It’s self-sabotage not to, shows you’re angry with the self.

want me to chase, or whatever; I just leave her a lone…not worth it Again, I don’t wanna play!”
Don’t mean to judge, but sounds like you may have issues with self-confidence. Perhaps you don’t chase because you don’t feel you will get. Tell yourself, “how can she not want me? I’m incredible!” Make a list of all of your good qualities, I did. It will surprise you how much you have going for yourself. For her to be able to turn away from all that goodness will be impossible. Women are attracted to confidence, swagger. It’s not game so much, it’s going for what you want. The chase can be excruciating and fun at the same time. I’ve found that men don’t respect things that are too easy, they have to feel they’ve earned it. Enjoy the game, it’s not going away. A woman has to know you’re sincere, she will put you to the test. She has to, she’s protecting her most valuable asset- her heart. Most men just want to stick it and leave and this causes us pain. She’s got to make sure that you’re about more than that, that you genuinely want to get to know her. Understand that women have been hurt and lied to so much, protecting ourselves is instinct.

I know I write a lot, just trying to help. I hope you read it, I put a lot of effort into the things I write