Stopitnjoy

February 9, 2008

I’d be a great boyfriend…just don’t want to be aint a relationship right now

You know what I don’t like about relationships?

The always have to “Go Somewhere” WHY?

Why can’t people just be happy? Enjoy themselves…have what they have and just maintain, that’s what’s so dumb to me about the marriage thing
A woman will be with someone for however long…happy; in love…he’s the greatest guy ever THEN
“What are we doing”? … “Where is this relationship going?”

Wha? We’re doing this…The relationship is going where it’s going…wha?

She wants to get engaged…which means what? You get a ring and you can call him a fiancé…other than that the relationship is the same no?

He doesn’t want to get engaged, he doesn’t want to get married…so what happens? They break up, she doesn’t want to be with him anymore cuz he’s not serious about the relationship
…he doesn’t love her enough…he doesn’t know what he wants …etc. etc.

He does too know what he wasn’t; he wants to not get married.

The dumb thing to me is…then they breakup…SO the person you were in love with, that was the greatest person ever, that you had NO problems with…you got rid of them because they didn’t want to get married
So what’s next genius? That’s right you start over.

You’re single…you have to date…you have to find someone new…hopefully like them…hopefully love them
Get along and stay together…trust them…then hope THEY want to get married

Just be happy, enjoy yourself.

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Keli

I look at it like this…

Marriage can be great, but you have to get married for the right reasons. I have seen women squeeze an “I do” out of a man…and they have led to divorce court…or they are well on their way. If you are looking for perfectly happy ever after…well, I don’t think that exists…marriage takes work.

I don’t believe you should force it. However, if someone does not want to get married because he’s stubborn and bull headed, then that’s downright selfish…and they probably should not be married anyway.

I never say “never”. My ex went from screaming he never wanted to get married, to being upset that I did not want him using the “m” word because he always said never, so now I felt that he was manipulating me.

If everything is good, we truly love, trust, honor, and respect each other…I don’t see a problem with marriage…but the thing is, marriage is a promise, and if you are not willing, ready, or able to make that promise, then you shouldn’t.

My brother asked me, when I was settling down. Meaning, “Get Married”. He made it seemed as though something is wrong with me because I’m single. He’s divorced, and on his way to marriage #2.

I can say that I am single and happy, but I can’t say that sometimes I don’t want to be a part of a pair.

Marriage is a relationship, but a relationship is not a marriage, and all relationships don’t lead to marriage.
harriet

hope you find what you’re looking for. i think a majority of women, deep inside, want the security of knowing that the commitment is more than just casual, and being engaged or getting married solidifies it.

unfortunately, with so many people trading in marriages like they trade in cars, it’s difficult to know either way.

dating is too vicious a cycle for me to maintain. when i was single, i was by myself until i wasn’t anymore…and we got married. but that’s not for everyone.
Keli

I do agree that people can tend to rush stuff, and try to put unnecessary defintions and titles on things…I feel you in regards to just being happy and enjoying yourself. I also think you have to be fair, and if you really love someone, consider their wants/needs as well as your own.

However, it’s nice to know that the person you love, loves you right back.
beautifulgyrlj

I feel u E… I totally agree with u for the first time in history…LOL.Women love to force the whole relationship titles and marriage. I guess I’m not like most women because marriage and kids is something I am not pressed on it in my lifetime.

And women like to give a man an ultimatum… “Well we have been together for 5 years so?….. When are we getting married?” That’s dumb. You should never give a person an ultimatum that will only push them away.

People need to learn to live life and be patient everything will fall into place. Relationships are too much anyway… Because if it doesn’t work out I have wasted all that time on some retard and I’m too old to be wasting precious time. Time is of the essence. What happened to people just dating and chilling and letting things come naturally?… Guess me and u gonna be the only ones who aren’t feeling the whole marriage and kids ting. And besides that KIDS!? I can’t have no stretch marks LOL…
http://eclectik-relaxation.com/ eclectik

Just saying…

Relationship dont equal Marriage
Marriage dont equal happiness
Marriage dont equal Love
Love dont equal Happiness

BUT

Happiness = Happiness

When you find it…enjoy it….dont try and fix it.
http://www.datinglane.blogspot.com C’est Chic

I think it is about progression. Who wants anything without the ability to evolve and progress? Would you stay at your job knowing that you will never have the ability to get a raise or advance to a higher position? Would you continue to ride the bench as an athlete without the ability to ever make it into the starting line up, or hell, even on the field for that matter? NOPE. So why would any woman (or any man for that matter) want to be in a stagnant relationship? I get ur point, trust me I do…BUT let’s be real here. Progressing to the next level ie engagement and/or marriage doesnt mean the dynamics of the relationship have to change…it simply means that the committment is more FINITE and TANGIBLE. And it solidifies this “thing” that we are doing…or have going on. And let’s face it…I’m shallow and I want the damn ring. Shit.
http://eclectik-relaxation.com/ eclectik

The thing about the progression theory you made (and a GREAT one at that)
is … The Job and the Athlete are evolving to something else
More money, better position…different role…its an improvement

That AND the relationship is going great you’re happy…both parties are in love…they are content…

The worker and athelete are not content…they want more

Alls im saying is when you try to fix or improve on something not broken or going great there comes problems.

That and promotion and advancement are a part of life and needed for societey…a relationship is volunentary

All that being said; I like the apporach and the ring honesty!

you’re the best chic.
http://mentallyspeaking.blogspot.com blujewel

bottom line is that love & happiness are sold separately!!
cuzkaysaidso

E says: “…SO the person you were in love with, that was the greatest person ever, that you had NO problems with…you got rid of them because they didn’t want to get married. So what’s next genius? That’s right you start over.”

I say: AMEN!
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