Computer Love

July 24, 2007

Online dating

A lot of people do it
Most people want to do it

There’s a lot of things that people consider/complain about/should be conscious of…have to worry about; like:
The perception of craziness
One of the toughest parts of dating someone ‘offline’ is to not end up with a crazy ass lunatic stalker ass crazy person …or something similar.
The problem with all that is “crazy ass lunatic stalker-ass crazy” is NOT an option to check or pull down on the personality list when you set up your username

SO you have to convince whomever you’re digging/feelin’ that you’re not crazy.
The PROBLEM is while you’re trying to convince them you may be sounding crazy.

Then you have the veteran crazies! They been crazy for so damn long and have their stalkin’ and car keyn’ down to such a science you have to really pay attention to find the ‘battiness’ in them.

So why bother? F’ it. Internet dating isn’t worth it.

…nah because you find…

Perfect matches:

With the internet, you can at least weed out:

The assholesThe assholes
Women: The men that’s blatantly trying to smash, or shower you with gold and suck ya toes lmao!
Men: The women that want you to buy them the world and smoke all your weed…or trying to get into/stay in the country.The assholes The men that’s blatantly trying to smash, or shower you with gold and suck ya toes lmao! The women that want you to buy them the world and smoke all your weed…or trying to get into/stay in the country.You can eliminate personality traits that you don’t wat…like for me? I need someone just as boring as I am; so those with “Yeah I like to party my ass off and you can catch me at (laundry list of clubs) and I like to shake it, and smoke, and do crystal meth” I’m prob. Not digging like that.The assholes The men that’s blatantly trying to smash, or shower you with gold and suck ya toes lmao! The women that want you to buy them the world and smoke all your weed…or trying to get into/stay in the country.You can eliminate personality traits that you don’t wat…like for me? I need someone just as boring as I am; so those with “Yeah I like to party my ass off and you can catch me at (laundry list of clubs) and I like to shake it, and smoke, and do crystal meth” I’m prob. Not digging like that.But it’s a good way of finding out what type of personality they MIGHT have (meeting their representative thing) before going out with them…instead of meeting someone on the street and they either stare at your breasts/ass or wallet/car all damn day.The assholes The men that’s blatantly trying to smash, or shower you with gold and suck ya toes lmao! The women that want you to buy them the world and smoke all your weed…or trying to get into/stay in the country.You can eliminate personality traits that you don’t wat…like for me? I need someone just as boring as I am; so those with “Yeah I like to party my ass off and you can catch me at (laundry list of clubs) and I like to shake it, and smoke, and do crystal meth” I’m prob. Not digging like that.But it’s a good way of finding out what type of personality they MIGHT have (meeting their representative thing) before going out with them…instead of meeting someone on the street and they either stare at your breasts/ass or wallet/car all damn day.So…that is pretty cool…nice filtering process; maybe the myspace and match.com dating isn’t that bad after all.
Well, then you have those that’s:The assholes The men that’s blatantly trying to smash, or shower you with gold and suck ya toes lmao! The women that want you to buy them the world and smoke all your weed…or trying to get into/stay in the country.You can eliminate personality traits that you don’t wat…like for me? I need someone just as boring as I am; so those with “Yeah I like to party my ass off and you can catch me at (laundry list of clubs) and I like to shake it, and smoke, and do crystal meth” I’m prob. Not digging like that.But it’s a good way of finding out what type of personality they MIGHT have (meeting their representative thing) before going out with them…instead of meeting someone on the street and they either stare at your breasts/ass or wallet/car all damn day.So…that is pretty cool…nice filtering process; maybe the myspace and match.com dating isn’t that bad after all.Well, then you have those that’s:Better with the Keyboard

The assholes The men that’s blatantly trying to smash, or shower you with gold and suck ya toes lmao! The women that want you to buy them the world and smoke all your weed…or trying to get into/stay in the country.You can eliminate personality traits that you don’t wat…like for me? I need someone just as boring as I am; so those with “Yeah I like to party my ass off and you can catch me at (laundry list of clubs) and I like to shake it, and smoke, and do crystal meth” I’m prob. Not digging like that.But it’s a good way of finding out what type of personality they MIGHT have (meeting their representative thing) before going out with them…instead of meeting someone on the street and they either stare at your breasts/ass or wallet/car all damn day.So…that is pretty cool…nice filtering process; maybe the myspace and match.com dating isn’t that bad after all.Well, then you have those that’s:Sometimes typing is much easier than speaking in person…you don’t have to look a person in the eye, you get a chance to prepare your answers/thoughts….time to think about how a person might take things…they don’t really know you so you can present yourself any way you like
(Unless you type this many blogs; in which you can pretty much tell what my dumb ass is like lol)

Anyway, you may really be diggin’ someone but then when you meet them in person, or even talk to them on the phone, they may be extra bland…all dry, they might have allthe personality of prostate cancer…it might be brand new.
That aint you/That USE to be you

Then you have what they look like…or what you THINK they look like. There’s a lot of superficial people on myspace, and the majority of them do NOT follow my: “Looks attract, personality keeps, actions maintain” mantra so it’s all about how round your ass is, if you have a six pack, if you’re light skin, if you’re dark skin, do you have dread, if you’re over 5-10, blah blah fn blah.

(By the way, this COULD be considered ‘hating’, and especially because I DON’T have one BUT, I know you women want to see, but aren’t the pictures of the guys in front of the mirror with one hand on the camera, and the other lifting up the bottom of his shirt to show off the abs a little gay lookin?..Guess not, them ni66as is all over your friends’ list lmao!)

Anyway, then you have the tricky ones

They got their Graduation photo up, which is fine…’cept it’s their High School gradation photo from 5 years, 3 kids, 55 lbs, and 4 weaves ago

Or it’s their sister or brother…or some nondescript model that everyone hasn’t caught on with yet.

But most of all

If they’re in the pictures with a martini glass backdrop with one hand on their hip and their ass pointing at the camera all while rockin’ some painted on jeans , 6” heel boots and two band-aids over their nipples…you should know that you’re probably NOT getting a pre med student that enjoys blockbuster nights and a hard fought game of Super Mario 3

Conversely.

If they’re in the picture with one hand middle finger up, other hand with a gun, full of cash, or their fingers look like they got bad arthritis (some sort of ‘Im frontin like I’m in a gang but I’m really not’ sign)…know that you are probably NOT getting someone with a diversified portfolio and plans for upward mobility

I dunno

The argument is “These people are crazy, you don’t know what type of crazies you’ll meet from the internet”
It’s true, but my response has always been “They’re just people”

You may doing the best thing for you…finding a professional man/woman that don’t have time to be out there meeting people…don’t club…aint trying to hit the meat markets because what they want is not there in the first place so , why not go online…confort of home…yadda yadda yadda.

Doesn’t matter where you meet them:

Mall
Grocery Store
Chat room
Blackplanet
Church
Myspace
Yospace lol

If they’re stalkers…they stalkers…if they’re not they’re not…don’t matter where or how you meet them…people is some muhfukas, you just have to luck up.

Then the only thing you have to do is agree on a story to tell your mother how you met LMAO!!!!!!

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http://www.journey2joy.blogspot.com Darbs

I finally got a chance to read this…VERY true indeed. You hit the nail on the head with every single case…you’ve had a bit of experience in this arena, huh? LOL. I’m for meeting initially online because, believe it or not, I think that allows you the opportunity to see the heart of a person. Now the hope is that, when you meet in person, they don’t flip the script.

The reality is…anyway you do it…dating is a TOTAL crap shoot. Why not try the non-traditional approach?
http://www.journey2joy.blogspot.com Darbs

I finally got a chance to read this…VERY true indeed. You hit the nail on the head with every single case…you’ve had a bit of experience in this arena, huh? LOL. I’m for meeting initially online because, believe it or not, I think that allows you the opportunity to see the heart of a person. Now the hope is that, when you meet in person, they don’t flip the script.

The reality is…anyway you do it…dating is a TOTAL crap shoot. Why not try the non-traditional approach?
http://my-fresh-start.blogspot.com Lisa

I totally agree it really doesn’t matter where you meet people at these days.Well unless you met at the club those relationships never work out for some reason lol.With dating these days it’s a automatic gamble it’s all about are you willing to play and risk it.Myspace is a trip that’s the new hook up spot.I’m not tired of looking at the six packs though I got to keep it real lol.
Later
http://www.glamazonlife.blogspot.com miss ahmad

i’ve not been successful with cyber dating which is not to say that i wouldn’t try it again, however my preference would be to meet someone in real time who lives in my city!
http://www.thegoddess.blog-city.com The Goddess

This was funny. You’re right, People are crazy. I’ve heard so many stories it’s not even funny. It’s a risk, regardless of where you meet someone. The only difference between online and in person is, physically you know what you’re getting when you meet in the normal everyday places. On-line you get a picture of someone that looks like LL cool J (you’re vibin and they are down to earth and possibly your sould mate) and then you you meet them in person and they look like the Nutty Professor. LOL
nitabita

*Anyway, you may really be diggin’ someone but then when you meet them in person, or even talk to them on the phone, they may be extra bland…all dry, they might have all the personality of prostate cancer…it might be brand new.*

LOL…don’t you hate that?! There is nothing worse, to me, than a person with no personality. Just dry for no reason. Have some sense of humor…do you think anything is funny? Anyway, I digress…

I think there are definitely pros and cons to meeting someone or maintaining a relationship online. I was dating a guy who lived in another state. Though we talked on the phone a lot, most of our communication was via IM and email. He wrote beautiful poetry, had a way with words that was indescribable, and lots of personality. The problem you ask? He had a “stank attitude” which is easy to hide when you’re not face-to-face. It was so confusing, but I finally learned to believe what he did, not what he said. How could a guy who wrote all the right things on the computer, do all the wrong things in person? You’re right “they’re just people.” Everybody is crazy.
http://sangindiva.blogspot.com Sangindiva

I’ve tried online dating before-
met some “interesting” folks…
but I think when HE finds me- I’ll know 🙂

I think online dating allows you to get to know someone on a level
you wouldn’t right away if you were face 2 face.
It seems as if the computer makes some folks really bold! lol.
they will just tell you all of their biz-nass! 🙂
http://nyah-lifeonpurpose.blogspot.com/ Isha

Maaan…You were’nt supposed to mention the feet! LOL. I’ve tried the on-line thing. Eeeeh. In my opinion, a waste of time, gas, money and my efforts!

I’m with Diva…he needs to find me, me searchin’ that way feels strange. Electronic Meat Market is what it is.
1969

I am here! Thanks for checking out my blog yesterday. I have no clue about online dating since I am an old married lady. However, I think one of the major things you can know upfront is how well someone can articulate. Not everyone can write well. LMAO!
http://bliggidybloop.blogspot.com/ blah blah blah

Maybe I am in the minority…but I like cyber dating. For one… I ain’t got sh!t to do all day at work (I know I know…work!) so why not spend it chatting away to someone… flirting or just really having a basic conversation….
Actually, truth be told… I need to sign my BE-hind up for some on-line classes rather than BS my time on BPM…lol
http://lovesjanuari.blogspot.com januari

I do a little bit of both, and I’ve met decent people just in random places or online and vice versa I’ve met freaks and crazy people…thats why for me its not such a big deal because where ever you’re dating you should use caution and notice obivious red flags…cause if you pay close attention people will show you their true self regardless of how hard they try to hide it.